tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4186970864293258312.post1590775000648330682..comments2023-10-19T08:17:37.794-07:00Comments on I Have Things...: The Other MotherTChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06927536275580889825noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4186970864293258312.post-5029272245495232802010-04-13T09:57:54.872-07:002010-04-13T09:57:54.872-07:00Meg, it makes absolute sense. And it's very tr...Meg, it makes absolute sense. And it's very true...the anxiety permeates everything. In fact, the psychiatrist's diagnosis is PDD *and* GAD (generalized anxiety disorder). There's no ignoring the anxiety with this kid.<br /><br />The difference from a 'regular' GAD diagnosis is that it's thought that the anxiety is a consequence of his autism "wiring." UltimatelyTChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09490117693253485044noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4186970864293258312.post-11627332371288860712010-04-13T06:28:10.776-07:002010-04-13T06:28:10.776-07:00PS Re-reading my post, it may have come off as que...PS Re-reading my post, it may have come off as questioning the diagnosis, which was not my intent. Just wondering the degree to which anxiety makes all those challenges feel so much harder for N to deal with. I hope that makes sense. MMegnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4186970864293258312.post-36662446761841372312010-04-13T06:14:03.340-07:002010-04-13T06:14:03.340-07:00I have stated to comment several times on this and...I have stated to comment several times on this and your previous post, but couldn't find the right words. It is difficult with typical children to know how to react to certain behaviors, but is much more challenging when a child is on the spectrum or has other concerns. It is difficult not to be embarassed when our kids act in ways that don't fit the norm and it is not always easy for Megnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4186970864293258312.post-87778977538766487452010-04-08T17:03:05.719-07:002010-04-08T17:03:05.719-07:00I followed your links and am shocked, absolutely S...I followed your links and am shocked, absolutely SHOCKED that a real teacher would not have recognized autistic traits in a child. It's not like this is 1973 and nobody is autistic. <br /><br />BTW, I think you can be embarrassed by some of N's actions and stand up for him. It's not one or the other. <br /><br />Did you make a mistake in taking his socks off when he didn't want toGreenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10931380770342598889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4186970864293258312.post-40137947705282758722010-04-07T19:14:30.194-07:002010-04-07T19:14:30.194-07:00TC - Thanks. Really. Wise words.TC - Thanks. Really. Wise words.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4186970864293258312.post-74291967825498071812010-04-06T23:50:57.889-07:002010-04-06T23:50:57.889-07:00Anonymous, for what it's worth, I know exactly...Anonymous, for what it's worth, I know exactly how you feel. It was only recently, after more than seven years of hearing what N *isn't* rather than what he is, that we finally got someone to really see how he fits on the autism spectrum. I have ohsomany times felt like an outcast or a fraud when talking to other "autism moms" for exactly the reason you talk about. Because my TChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09490117693253485044noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4186970864293258312.post-91614463619637604732010-04-06T20:24:25.918-07:002010-04-06T20:24:25.918-07:00I have never commented before but I have picked th...I have never commented before but I have picked this blog to leave my confession. <br />My son doesn't have autism. He has about 5 other things that leave him just as confusing to people but with no easy way to explain it. <br />My confession is that lately - I feel so jealous of the autism Moms. You have groups, you have books to read, you have foundations, you have research, you have Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4186970864293258312.post-48716511164874948162010-04-06T12:41:14.772-07:002010-04-06T12:41:14.772-07:00I just wanted to thank you for this post.
I had ...I just wanted to thank you for this post. <br /><br />I had a recent discussion with another parent about how much to share with other people when our children have special needs that might make them either appear different, or appear poorly behaved. <br /><br />I don't think we came to a good resolution and it is something I still struggle with.Lissehttp://homeintheworld.typepad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4186970864293258312.post-76869255842974213132010-04-06T08:40:24.354-07:002010-04-06T08:40:24.354-07:00"Had I just left him alone, let him do what h..."Had I just left him alone, let him do what he wanted to do (and not do what he didn't want to do), he's have probably had a great time that day."<br /><br />I do this, too, with my neurotypical kids, and then I feel bad about it. It's so easy for moms to see our children as extensions of ourselves, rather than their own people, and that's true even when they are not bjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17223438099194513920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4186970864293258312.post-34580235009417381502010-04-03T19:50:42.648-07:002010-04-03T19:50:42.648-07:00Thanks, Green, for your always-there support.
Wou...Thanks, Green, for your always-there support.<br /><br />Would that it were true, though, that anything near a majority of people were truly aware. I'd need a book to tell you about the people who've showed me, by word or deed, that that's simply not true, that there's still a lot of prejudice and fear and misinformation. And there was a huge brouhaha just this past couple of TChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09490117693253485044noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4186970864293258312.post-32929387916832937012010-04-03T19:30:15.074-07:002010-04-03T19:30:15.074-07:00There is so much awareness about autism now that I...There is so much awareness about autism now that I think most people, if they have more than one weird interaction with N, will be able to figure it out. <br /><br />Also, there's absolutely nothing for you to be embarrassed about. It's 100% clear to me you didn't slack in your parental duties. You didn't do or not do anything to cause N to have autism. This is just how he came Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10931380770342598889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4186970864293258312.post-37410995418922900042010-04-02T13:44:27.966-07:002010-04-02T13:44:27.966-07:00I've noticed there seems to be an other mother...I've noticed there seems to be an other mother just when we need her. I'm glad you found yours, that day.Leightongirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01995668005241526484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4186970864293258312.post-7741624360953339932010-04-02T13:14:28.310-07:002010-04-02T13:14:28.310-07:00Lovely post. I'm in love with the other mother...Lovely post. I'm in love with the other mother.Niksmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14715465327343655483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4186970864293258312.post-20313022552547113532010-04-02T13:11:47.872-07:002010-04-02T13:11:47.872-07:00Maybe some parents think every kid is one of "...Maybe some parents think every kid is one of "their people?" In a good way?Ambrehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14045628805242569958noreply@blogger.com